Embodied Consent
for Ancestral Healing
An exquisite intimate gathering to play in the synchronistic and symbiotic relationship between the practices of embodied consent and ancestral healing.
Embodied Consent (informed by Wheel of Consent®) is an
embodied awareness, attunement, and communication practice.
We gather to deepen our awareness and skills.
In each experiment, we deepen our capacity to notice, trust, and value
the subtle signals arising within our body.
We learn to navigate our relationship with ourselves and others
with more trust, dignity, integrity, and freedom.
Engaging in this practice brings new clarity and ease, which in turn provides a foundation for more gratitude, joy, generosity, and confidence in all our interactions.
Evening Day 1
~ Arrival ~
~ Dinner ~
~ Welcome ~
Day 2, 3, 4
~ Breakfast ~
~ Embodied Consent Practice ~
~ Lunch and Resourcing ~
~ Embodied Consent Practice ~
~ Dinner ~
~ Enjoy the exquisite lands and facilities ~
Morning Day 5
~ Breakfast ~
~ Departure ~
Through experimentation we deepen our skills in sensing and tending our own wants, needs, and boundaries and ability to support others with the same.
Tune into the Instagram Live conversation between
Carmen Leilani De Jesus (Consent is a Practice) and Helena De Felice.
What people are saying
“It's truly transformational work and so necessary for the healing and growth we are in desperate need of."
“I love myself and my partner more.” ~ RMT
”This course is so relevant to me personally, as I navigate how to be a good friend and partner, as well as professionally in my work as a counsellor and facilitator. By becoming clearer about when I am asking people in my life to give to or receive from me, and listening to my own and others' limits, I am able to create relationships with more safety and integrity for everyone.” ~ Trina
”Wow. Deep gratitude. Feeling a profound shift. “ ~ Plant Medicine Guide
"I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no's and yes's and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others."
”This course has given me a safe container to build awareness of my willingness (as well as lack there of) to participate in all the circumstances of life. The practices were a place to for me to build comfortability with communicating new types of responses that accurately reflect my needs/wants.” ~ Lauren
"It has given me language to access direct pleasure, ask for what I want, and express boundaries. I can get more clean with people on what I want and what I am willing to tolerate."
"Amazing. Do this course. It will change your life, as you practice the skills that grow your confidence to live in greater residency in your body, and to take up the space in the world that you want and need." ~ Kristina
“Wow. This is the safest container I have ever been in. I’ve never experienced this freedom” ~ Plant Medicine Guide
What do we learn through this practice?
We deepen our understanding of how power dynamics, trauma, systemic oppression impact our capacity to access choice and respect for our boundaries.
We deepen our experience of fundamental dignity and self-trust.
We deepen our skills to notice what belongs to us (our body, our emotions, our wants, our limits, etc.) and what belongs to someone else.
We develop skills to notice, trust, value, and communicate our needs.
We learn to notice when we want something.
We learn to notice when we are willing to do something or having something happen.
We learn to notice when we do not want something, when we are not willing to do something or have something happen.
We learn to notice our subtle signals when we are not safe-enough to connect with our wants and limits.
We become more aware of our tendencies to “go along” with what is happening - noticing the circumstances and places where it is more difficult for us to say no, stop, pause, or negotiate.
We learn to communicate more clearly with requests, offers, or invitations.
We learn to savour the experience of receiving a gift, and of giving a gift with ease.
We learn how to support others to notice their wants, needs, and limits and be able to communicate with them.
The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and embodied awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin.
Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world, and reshaped how therapeutic practitioners are trained.
Consent, in this context, means “an agreement between two or more people about what may or may not happen”. It goes beyond medical consent, beyond intimate consent, and applies to every type of agreement in any type of relationship.
Engaging in this practice develops our skills to notice personal, interpersonal, and group dynamics when making choices, respecting one’s own and others’ boundaries, and navigating relationships with more integrity, clarity, and freedom.
It is simple, subtle, and profound.
What is the Wheel of Consent®?
What do you mean by trauma-responsive?
Engaging in this practice means engaging with the most fundamental aspects of caring for and respecting personal autonomy.
This means we will connect with moments where we haven’t been able to care for our autonomy or respect another’s.
The whole design: the learning environment, the practices themselves, and how the practices are offered and facilitated, support moving slowly, at a pace where we can notice, choose how to participate, and digest and metabolize what arises.
The opportunities to experiment are small and short and each of them build on each other.
The pace is slow, the setting is private and comfortable, there are many options for how to participate, and the group agreements and guidelines support the practice.
What “safe-enough” means varies from individual to individual, and not every environment works for every person. Experimenting in this practice is particularly delicate for individuals and groups who have systematically experienced *not* having a choice, or not having their choices or bodily autonomy respected.
We also offer tailored programs for individuals and groups to best serve these needs.
Who is it for?
“Who is it for” is a central question in the practice of the Wheel of Consent®.
The practice of embodied consent is profoundly impactful for bringing deeper intimacy, integrity, and care into your relationship with yourself and others.
໑ Professionals who work with people to affect human change and healing
໑ Heart centered humans looking for deeper and more meaningful connection in their relationships
໑ Those yearning for deeper relational skills for more nourishing and easeful connections
Helena’s relationship to the Wheel of Consent®
Since first being introduced to the Wheel of Consent® in 2016, it has transformed how I approach every aspect of my life that involves choice making and relationships. I left my first immersive training with the experience that my whole brain had rewired - my inner compass for desires, needs, and limits had been reset - and it gave me a completely new frame and somatic awareness to engage from.
Since then, I have worked with hundreds of individuals in groups and one-on-one sessions, and continue to develop and deepen my own practice of embodied consent.
It is an honour and great fulfilment to get to share this work with you.